Give yourself time. Be patient with yourself. Don't be afraid to ask your friends and family for help, even with everyday things. Remember your clergyperson is available to help too.

Many people find it helpful to journal during this time. It may be about your emotions or it may be memories about the deceased. This can be on your computer or in a notebook or journal. There a lots of websites about this; some give prompts to guide you.


http://www.kporterfield.com/journal/Journal_Grief.html  
http://www.journey-through-grief.com/grief-journaling.html 

One of the things most people have to do after someone dies, is go through their belongings and decide what to do with them. In some cases, this is very painful and the first thought is to give away the loved one's things. 

   Wait... Give it a little time...

If it's painful to see them in the closet or sitting around the house, put them away for a little while. Too often, people give items away during a period of intense grief that they later wish they hadn't. Just give it some time.